Divorce: A Spiritual Event

Spirituality In Relationships

We are still covering the spirituality of all relationships and today we continue yesterday's discussion of marriage as a spiritual event. We have already touched the topic of what spiritual powers exist and are released exclusively in marriage. See the Wednesday, May 23, 2007 Spirituality Blog - Marriage: A Spiritual Relationship. Today we look at divorce.

Foundation To Avoid Divorce

A male "takes on a wife", but a female is "given in marriage".

For this reason God's scriptures command that the husband honor the wife in his leadership decisions, with the knowledge that she is a female, designed with a body physically weaker than his male strength.



1 Peter 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.





Evil powers in the spirit-realm attempt to destroy who God created each of you to be. The Evil one has accomplished the cunning task of twisting this scripture in the minds of some who assumed that God meant the wife and any woman were spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically weaker than the husband or any man. Also, some assumed that God meant the husband or any man must be spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically stronger than the wife or any woman. Any of you who have been married more than a week have learned what single men and women already knew -- none of those assumptions are true.

Through this cunning, the Evil one lays the trap for continual contention, despise and disrespect.



Contention, despise and disrespect ALWAYS produce anger, hurt feelings, and grudging that you cannot get over (aka bitterness), next comes hate and eventually betrayal in all marriage relationships poisoned by these assumptions. If both parties are willing to live in the false assumptions, it can be very cozy, but spiritually destructive to God's plans and purposes for each of you.

Hebrews 12:15
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;

You will feel like arguing a point when you know someone close to you who you are partners with thinks that you are incapable of bringing anything to the table in decision making. You will feel hurt and after a while, except by the grace of God, grudging (bitterness) toward the person you are to be a team player with. Bitterness will come because you are being deprived of life itself, who you are -- made to live the outward show of an existence when you are not even there. Roots of bitterness defile the marriage relationship, making the married couple a pain for everyone to be around, even themselves.

Spiritual Steps To Divorce

There is a path leading to betrayal and divorce:

"Betrayal is the breaking of any portion of the covenant in the spirit-realm between God and yourselves. It occurs when the man and/or the woman do not grasp the spirituality of their marriage" -- Min. D. A. Wynne

People often think that the act of infidelity is the breaking of the marriage covenant. However, God does not see it that way in the spirit-realm. There are many words and actions that the Evil one seeks to persuade your participation in, knowing that it will some day leave you without that person whom God assigned to 'have your back'. Pride may tell you that you don't need them. If you have any spirituality at all, you know that God supplies all our 'needs'. You NEED them. Living for God will be much more difficult without that person. Remember why God glued them to you in the first place!

A Pastor Dee's Spirituality Principle Of All Relationships

"Relationships are a spiritual thing intended to "have your back" in the spirit-realm! EVERY relationship is given to protect your human spirit."

Proverbs 4:23
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Until one comes to this understanding through the intimate teachings of Jesus Christ, a person is doomed to a history of mismanaged relationships, unneccessary heartbreak and psychological/emotional baggage brought to future relationships.



For example, when Christ teaches in the Bible to remember that your wife is physically weaker than you as you make decisions governing life with you and you do not consider it, that is betrayal of the covenant between God and you.

For example, when Christ teaches in the Bible to reverence, that is to feel and show a special respect for your husband as the one who thought enough of you to devote his life to rescuing your physical life from where you were to something much better, and you do not remember what he has done for you as if it is 'owed', that is betrayal of the covenant between God and you.

When a covenant with God is broken, that is no trite thing. Except God personally intervene, divorce is coming. I once knew a couple who were beautiful in marriage on the outside, but God knew what was being said to one another behind the four walls where they thought only they could hear. God could see and hear. The Lord shared with me that it was no demonic infiltration that destroyed their marriage. Rather, "THEY destroyed the beautiful marriage I planned for them EVERY TIME they dishonored Me."

Don't let twisted teachings and assumptions give the Evil one an opportunity to rob you of the beautiful relationship God designed to protect your human spirit. Marriage is uniquely created by God for that responsiblity. Today, ask Jesus to forgive you and undo the evil things you have said and done to your spouse. Go to your spouse and humble yourself to confess the foolish things you have done under the spell of twisted teaching. God is wanting to heal the broken heart of each of you -- TODAY.


This concludes our discussions on Spirituality In Relationships. Thanks for participating. Thanks for letting me help.